In one of the study where both men and women were actively pursuing or involved in extramarital affairs, main reason was sex life. Both the genders were hoping to improve their sex lives. So the they obviously felt their primary relationship was lacking between the sheets and so looking for alternatives.
But is this extra marital affair is more in men than in women? If some of the studies have to be believed then it is true. But why?
About 20% of married men and 13% of married women have cheated, according to the Institute for Family Studies
Why do Men Think of Cheating?
Infidelity in men can be attributed to many factors. But the main reason, however, is it’s easier than ever before. Lets us look into other factors.
Online dating opportunity
In the past days, there was no much scope for a man to communicate with other woman so easily as it is possible now. With increased easiness in communication with new technologies like mobiles, pagers, email, chatting etc., men have more scope to find and maintain a new relationship. These technologies allow men to cheat their wives easily without leaving any clue.
Ease of access between man and woman
With women becoming more independent and getting into jobs at various levels, the access between a man and woman has become much easier giving a better scope for developing ‘new relationships’. Lunch together at workplace, official parties, going out on various occasions, etc. give more chances to meet and also to mate later.
Excessive gratification and no self control
Normally a man thinks ‘If it feels good, do it’. This is the best reason why men go for extra affairs. A man, most of the times, feels it difficult to suppress his feelings, and in in turn tries to finds avenues to express his feelings. Obviously, an extra-marital affair is the best way of ‘expression’.
Having more wives is better status symbol?
Every male will have ego, and he feels having more relationships is the best way to feed his ego. Having one means ‘good, having two ‘better’, having three ‘best’, and more than that ‘great’. This is how a man satisfies himself, and that’s why he tries to conquer more women with Alexander’s thirst.
Increase in lonely independent women
As relations getting disturbed due to various reasons, nowadays more ‘lone women’ are there in society. Though they search for new relationship or not, men are always ready to ‘help them out’.
Possibility of safe and secret sex
In the past days chances were very less to have ‘safe sex’. That is the reason why men tried their level best to control their ‘feelings’, and the statistics of extra affairs were very less. Now, with new and more means of ‘safe sex’ available, men got more freedom to have an extra affair.
How Does Infidelity Starts in Marriage?
There are many reasons why married people cheat. Frustration in the marriage is one common trigger; the cheater may make several attempts to solve problems to no avail. Maybe they had second thoughts about getting married or they were jealous over the attention is given to a new baby and neither had the skill set to communicate these feelings.
Lack of mutual respect between couple
If there is no mutual respect then it will be difficult to continue in relationship.
Emotional disconnect between couple
If you are not emotionally connected with your partner then higher chances are that you will soon be separated.
Love compatibility issue
If your personalities are not compatible, then it is the time to think that separation is sooner.
Financial pressure in marriage
With financial burden on the shoulder, marriage becomes no fun.
Lack of communication between couple is one of the most common reason how marriage starts falling.
Signs of a Husband Trying to Cheat
Do you think your husband is trying to cheat you, but don’t know exactly what you think is right or not. Then here are the signs of a cheating husband that make your task of catching him very easy.
Suddenly conscious on his looks and fitness
Apart from some of the signs mentioned above, a cheating husband will be eager to look good and change his dressing style and looks. He will start buying new clothes and spend more time in front of the mirror.
He may suddenly gets health conscious and works towards a fitter and healthier body. If you think that he was never into exercising or trying out those squats, you will be surprised at how much time and dedication he now seems to put in his workout efforts.
Sudden changes in cheating husband’s attitude
It is possible that your husband will suddenly turn picky and criticize you for almost everything that you do. He may not like the way you dress or speak, or he may feel that you have gained too much weight or are not curvy enough. Your husband may also have problems with the way you look after the house, with how much time you spend at work and how less time you devote to the house or to him, how less you earn or how much you spend, or even something as personal as your choice of friends.
How to Stop Your Husband Cheating on You
Many women claim that their husband are not being loyal to them. After many years of marriage every couple gets used to each other’s company so much, that they forget the the magic of togetherness. And in this stage, it is more likely that men start looking for things elsewhere.
Men start looking for something new in life. Imagine, if you can offer him that something new, he will stick to you like an adhesive on the wall. If you are already doing that and still he is not trying to be with you, the case is different. You may need to meet marriage counselors.
But if you are wondering why your relationship isn’t getting beautiful, then may be you need to keep your husband with you and then rediscover each other. Here are some simple ways to stay connected to your husband. Try them, and be sure your relationship lasts long.
Stop dining out, instead cook together
During holidays instead of dining out, both of you can plan to cook at home. It doesn’t matter whether you are preparing breakfast or lunch, what matters is you are spending some nice time together. Cooking together involves teamwork, which is the first priority for any marriage.
Do household jobs together
Do some household job together like – cleaning out the garage, organizing the attic, pulling up shrubs in the yard. After completing your task, both of you feel a great sense of accomplishment as you got it done by ‘doing together’. Now as you both have worked up a sweat job, have a sweet bath together.
Remember good old days and repeat
In the beginning days of your relationship you might have done many things like – taking long walks, making out at the movies, going to concerts – to keep up your relationship. Talk about the activities you used to do when you first started dating, and plan to start doing them again.
Spend more time together away from work
Plan a day where you can each stay home from job. Spend the whole day at home alone and together. Do what you both like – watching movies, gardening, and many ‘other things’. Make sure your mobiles are switched off, otherwise they switch off your mood.
Talk to and engage with you husband everyday
All the above tips are to keep your relationship strong when you feel something is going wrong. But the best way to keep your husband is being genuinely concerned about him everyday. Being good to your husband is the best way to keep him with you.
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The longer you put off dealing with this devastating situation, the worse you will feel if you find out he has not been honest with you. If you want to know if your husband has been cheating on you, then you should look at what he says and does around you, and pay attention to what has changed.
If you have any more reasons for ‘why men cheat’ or ‘why you want to cheat’ let us know. But, make sure your wife is not with you when you post your comment 🙂